I struggle with others casting dispersion on anyone's belief especially at a time of grief. That was not taught in Chaplains school, in seminary or any other place. We were taught that in times of grief and stress it is God's love and embrace that is needed, addressing anything in a corrective nature is a CONVERSATION (not an accusation) for another time once you help them through that time. So color me shocked and appalled even if it worked out. It was and still is people like him that drove me away and causes me great distress now.
All that said the just of what you said I find some I am not in agreement with as I am not fully understanding. The foundation of what you say, I find make sense. My issues has always been we as people of God have found various ways to get wrapped up in the details and to argue, disagree or in some way to come to a conclusion that the way we learned is the "Only" way to salvation, to God's grace to have proper faith. That is not what Jesus was about and all of us who have taken the journey to learn and understand his teachings.
Like I had said, it seems we all have chosen a position of what we believe God wants us to do for Salvation and most believe they have it right. So times I wonder if the true Salvation is that we find a way to seek Salvation in his Glory and in his holiness and the rest is just static noise. Just a thought and only that.
Thank you lori for answering and you have provided me with things to think on and to look into.